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However, the bottom role is much more multi-layered and includes physical, emotional and psychological dimensions that go beyond the immediate scope of intercourse.

Physical Aspects

In physical terms, the bottom is the partner who has the role of receiver during anal sex.

Use plenty of lube and tops, if you’re reading – trim your fingernails.

Positions

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Some positions can be easier if it’s your first time bottoming or you find it uncomfortable.

Read a book, scroll TikTok, or find your high school enemy on LinkedIn. Think of it like any other muscle that needs a warm-up – just like you’d warm up at the gym before working out.

Using anal toys before sex can make bottoming more comfortable. Truth: sex roles do not necessarily match a person’s character or behavior outside of sex.

We’re here to make bottoming easier for everyone who wants to try it. This may include the use of both the penis and fingers during anal sex, sex toys, and other objects that are part of the sexual experience. Water-based lube also works with condoms and all toys but it can dry out, which means you need to re-apply more often.

It’s a signal from your body to slow down, use more lube or stop altogether. If it’s not, then you shouldn’t force it. That’s ok.

Sex should be fun and pleasurable for everyone involved. Some people identify with that label, only ever bottom and would rather eat glass than top. In the context of sexual intercourse, it refers to a person who does not want to engage in anal sex at all.

You can also get free condoms and lubricants there. Without it, you can miss the warning signs and end up hurting yourself.

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What if it’s not working?

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Sometimes bottoming just doesn’t work. For the side, these forms of intimacy may be more pleasurable, comfortable, or emotionally satisfying than anal sex.

By embracing the fluidity of sexual preferences, they highlight the diversity that exists within the LGBTQ+ community and help break down stereotypes around what it means to be ‘top’ and ‘bottom’.

The term “side” is newer and less well-known. It keeps things moving smoothly and can help prevent pain or discomfort.

"Some people have chronic issues, like tears (fissures) or dilated veins (hemorrhoids) and skin tags," Dr. Goldstein explains. This is because the rectum doesn’t self-lubricate, so you’ll need some extra help. The open recognition of sexuality challenges the idea that penetration is the primary act of sexual experience.