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Ask someone who’s felt them.

You don’t have to be old to write older. Start one. TexasSupreme Court decision.^[1][15] These narratives often highlight intergenerational contrasts, such as the absence of public affirmation compared to contemporary visibility.^[41]A prominent recurring theme is the HIV/AIDS crisis of the 1980s and 1990s, which the group addresses through firsthand accounts of community devastation, caregiving burdens, and governmental inaction under administrations like Ronald Reagan's, where federal response lagged until 1987 AIDS funding allocations.

Way too loud. Don’t. But flip that lens and you’ll find something richer. This was followed by "Old Gays Try Grindr" on September 12, 2019, in which the group navigated the app's interface for the first time, reacting with humor and surprise to features like geolocation-based matching—experiences unfamiliar to men who came of age before widespread smartphone adoption.^[21][22] The video's unfiltered commentary on hookup culture and app etiquette resonated, amassing hundreds of thousands of views and sparking articles in outlets covering queer media.^[23]These Grindr-hosted videos represented a limited but foundational social media presence, confined primarily to YouTube and lacking independent profiles or cross-platform promotion during the 2010s.

(Maybe at the same time.)

Besides, every writer needs someone who tells them when their metaphor smells a little too much like Axe body spray.

🧠 “What Older Gay Men Know (That You Don’t)”

They’ve loved deeply.

They grew up when loving the wrong person could land you in jail—or worse, a hospital with no visitors allowed. Some older men carry biases, too. Writers have the power to shift that narrative. No one skips aging, not even with retinol and perfect lighting. Why not learn from someone already there?

Why Younger Gay Men Should Befriend Their Elders

In a world where TikTok trends and six-pack selfies steal the spotlight, there’s something quietly revolutionary about pulling up a chair next to someone who remembers what Stonewall felt like, not just what it meant.

It’s time to write a different story.

The best writing doesn’t come from outlines alone. Maybe even heal you.

You’ll gain perspective—and maybe a killer lemon bar recipe.

Friendship Doesn’t Require a Filter

Ageism in the gay community isn’t subtle—it’s in the swipe-lefts, the party invites, and the hashtags. You’ll find lived experience, sharper wit, and the kind of emotional resilience that doesn’t come with likes or followers.

Writers, especially, should know better.

They have it. Honor their legacies. It doesn’t care about crow’s feet or how fast someone walks. Older characters aren’t dead weight. Perhaps, finding common ground—or a story worth telling will develop.

The Age Gap Isn’t a Canyon—It’s a Bridge

Younger gay men often look at older men and see a mirror reflecting what they fear: age, invisibility, vulnerability.

Yet in queer spaces, ageism still rears its Botox-smooth head. Or a story where the mentor isn’t tragic, but sexy, smart, and sharp-tongued.

You don’t have to write them as saints or punchlines. Invite nuance. Brutal. Your work will be better for it.